"Go away, little boy, before I beg you to stay."
The reason we drive a modern car instead of one from the '70's is technological changes. Cars in the '70's got eight to ten miles per gallon, and the new cars get over 20. If you are not getting as much mileage as you used to, then it is time for a personal overhaul so that you can perform with modern efficiency.
Human beings are not cars and commitment is and issue. First and foremost, we should make the right choices for the right reasons. Anyone who has had the pleasure of having a torrid affair with a dynamic lover knows for sure that a relationship based on quality sex alone does not last. Likewise a relationship based on material things does not make you happy for long either. It is the power of being with someone that you love and respect and most importantly loves and respects you back that makes a relationship last.Relationships that are based on dependency don't last, either, if you are there because you are dependent on whatever your mate is providing, as soon as you no longer need it, you are gone! Many professional men and women seek out those who are dependent and/or who almost worship them to try to build a relationship with. There is no balance in a situation like that. Each partner has to bring something meaningful to the relationship to make it work. We all have different kinds of assets that express who we are. Money is a great thing to have; as Rev. O. C. Smith says, "Money is an expression of God in action." It is not the money but the beliefs of the person who possesses it that will attract true love."Success is nothing without someone you love to share it with."
Muhammad Nassardeen is an ancestor now. He was the founder and president of RBD Communications, the organization founded to alert the community to Recycle Black Dollars.
Love and Economics
by Muhammad Nassardeen
"Hit the road Jack, and don't you come back no more, no more, no more, no more." "Oh Woman, Oh Woman, Why you treat me this way? 'Cause I'll be back on my feet some day!" "Don't care if you do, 'cause it's understood you ain't got no money, you just ain't no good."
The perception is that romance without finance is a nuisance. The fact is that true love creates wealth. Many entrepreneurs have had their relationships suffer for the sake of their businesses, male and female. The reason many of these relationships do not work is the perception of unfulfilled promises. The fact is that every rose blossoms in its own time. There are many business owners who, with a little love and support from their families, would have been successful much sooner.
It is much easier to do well when there is a loving and nurturing environment at home. When you are fighting battles all day and you have to come home and fight, too, it can sometimes become unbearable. In the '90's, an era during which both spouses work, men must play a larger roll in the home and with the children. We must work together to help each other. There is nothing in the Bible or the Quran that says that men cannot help around the house!In the professional realm, many spouses have helped to put the other through school. When the goals of the newly educated spouse have been reached, quite often the relationship goes sour and the person who did all the work to help the development of their partner is now out and some new person who did nothing is in.The reasons for this phenomenon are as varied as those who have suffered this fate. Some say that the newly educated spouse had outgrown the other and seeks out someone on their new level. Others say that the wear and tear on the working spouse reduced them to something now less than desirable. The relationships that truly work are ones that are based on true love and not the individual or collective economic success."For the love of money, a woman will sell her precious body."
If your relationship is based on purely the material things that your mate is able to provide for you, then it is not love, it is prostitution. When two people really love each other, the relationship evolves as time and experience passes on. People change as time and experiences change.
When you are in love, love motivates you to want to try new things to keep your relationship alive and healthy. If you are only there for what your mate is able to provide for you, then you are not in love. By the same logic, if you love your mate and respect your relationship, you will do all that is in your power to provide the things that make your life together more comfortable. You cannot sit on your butt and not work or seek work if your family needs your help or the perception will be that you don't love them.Love and Economics
Love me for the content of my soul,
not my wallet
Love me for how I treat you,
not what I give you
Love me because I spend time with you,
not money on you.
Love me for how long I hold you,
not for how deep I'm in you.
The love I give is not based on wealth.
If your body breaks down, your soul will remain.
My love will last in sickness and in health,
In exchange for your love I give to you
The greatest thing I possess.
I give myself.
